Nollywood actress and media personality Bisola Aiyeola has said marriage is not the centre of her existence, stressing that although she remains open to getting married, she is happy with her life as a single mother.
The actress shared her views during an appearance on the In My Opinion podcast, where she discussed relationships, the realities of raising a child alone and the expectations placed on women in marriage.
Bisola, who turned 40 in January 2026, explained that she would welcome marriage if the opportunity arose but would not make it the defining goal of her life.
“For me, if marriage comes, I will get married. But it is not the core of my existence. I mean, I’m doing pretty good,” she said.
The actress, who has a 17-year-old daughter, also spoke candidly about the challenges of single parenthood, explaining that she makes a conscious effort to ensure her daughter understands that raising a child alone is not an easy responsibility.
“Being a single parent and looking after my daughter, I still let her know that being a single parent is not that easy. That’s not what you should aspire to be. Bearing the whole load of raising a child shouldn’t be for one person alone,” she added.
Bisola’s comments reflect her belief that raising children should involve shared responsibility rather than leaving one parent to shoulder the entire burden.
During the conversation, the actress also questioned the value of marriage when one partner is expected to handle most of the responsibilities at home, even when both partners are in the relationship.
She observed that some women serve as breadwinners while also bearing the responsibilities of childbirth, childcare and managing the household, with their partners still expecting them to provide additional care and attention.
According to Bisola, such situations have led some women to question the purpose of marriage when they feel they are effectively carrying the responsibilities of a household alone.
“Women are like, you know what, what’s the point? If I still have to do everything myself, why do I have to be tied to this man all in the name of marriage?” she said.
However, the actress clarified that she was not dismissing marriage as an institution. Rather, she maintained that marriage should not become the sole measure of a woman’s happiness or personal fulfilment.
Reflecting on her life at 40, Bisola expressed satisfaction with her personal journey and the progress she has made, making it clear that she is not putting her happiness on hold while waiting to get married.
“I turned 40 in January. I love me so much, and this is the best time of my life,” she said.
Her remarks have added to ongoing conversations about marriage, single motherhood and societal pressure on women to settle down by a particular age.
For Bisola, the possibility of marriage remains open, but she appears determined to enjoy her life and continue building her future without treating marital status as a prerequisite for fulfilment.
