Pastor Bisola Badejo recently shared a perspective that has sparked conversation:
“Marriage is an institution; drop that feminism at the door. When you go out on the road and one man tells you to submit, face him with all the fire in your heart and preach your feminism to him; he deserves it, not your husband.”
Her words speak to a tension many women face today: balancing personal empowerment with the commitment of marriage. For Pastor Bisola, marriage is more than a relationship—it is an institution with rules and responsibilities. Within this sacred space, the focus is on partnership, respect, and love. She argues that the fire and assertiveness women bring into public life should be redirected thoughtfully at home, where harmony and mutual understanding are key. The message is clear: women should never hold back in public. If someone challenges your dignity, your voice should roar. Feminism, in its truest sense, is about standing up for yourself, demanding respect, and refusing to be silenced. But marriage, she suggests, is a different arena—one where love, submission, and compromise matter more than confrontation. This perspective does not diminish a woman’s value or her voice. Instead, it encourages women to choose wisely when and where to assert themselves. Public life demands strength and resilience; private life demands patience, love, and commitment to partnership. Understanding this balance is the key to both personal empowerment and marital harmony.
