(DDM) – Popular Nigerian gospel singer Tope Alabi has finally opened up on her failed relationship with the father of her first child, Ayomikun, revealing that the union was never formalized and left her emotionally scarred.
Diaspora Digital Media (DDM) gathered that in a deeply emotional video shared on her Facebook page, the award-winning gospel artist spoke candidly about her troubled past with Lekan Olaoye, her former partner before her marriage to Soji Alabi in November 2000.
Tope Alabi disclosed that Olaoye never introduced his family to hers, nor performed any traditional marriage rites, despite repeated promises.
She said she lived with him out of youthful vulnerability and societal pressure to marry, only to realize she had “moved from frying pan to fire.”
“When I started living with him, I thought there was no point going back home where my family was pressuring me to marry,” she recounted.
“Little did I know I had moved from the frying pan to the fire.”
The singer narrated how her father constantly expressed worry that he never met the man she was living with or any member of his family.
According to Alabi, it took persistent pleas before Olaoye eventually visited her home, and even then, he came at night, accompanied by work friends instead of family members.
“My family asked when his people would come for the introduction,” she said. “He just said, ‘Okay’. If that ‘okay’ was ever going to happen, maybe it would have been tomorrow, but tomorrow never came.”
In the emotional confession, the gospel singer revealed that her late father’s disappointment eventually turned to peace when she later met Soji Alabi, whom she described as “a man from a good family who gave me a better ‘okay.’”
The celebrated singer used her experience as a warning to young women, urging them not to allow emotions or desperation to blind them to red flags in relationships.
“Ladies, please listen to me,” she advised. “When a man sees that you are gullible or vulnerable, he can take advantage of you.”
DDM reports that Tope Alabi’s revelation has reignited social media discussions around marriage, morality, and faith, especially among her large Christian fanbase.
Many online users praised her honesty and vulnerability, while others expressed surprise that she endured such hardship before rising to fame as one of Nigeria’s most respected gospel artists.
The singer, best known for hits like Angeli Mi, Logan Ti Ode, and Oruko Tuntun, has often drawn inspiration from personal struggles, turning them into soulful lyrics about grace, redemption, and divine restoration.
Observers say this new revelation paints a more human side of Alabi, who for years has maintained a strong image of faith and resilience in the gospel industry.
As she continues to minister through music, fans see her story as a testimony of transformation, from heartbreak and deception to healing and divine purpose.
Her final words in the video summed up the message of experience and renewal:
“God delivered me from shame, and He replaced it with joy. I’m sharing this because someone out there needs to hear it.”