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Every Rich Man Is Handsome (Or Not?) – Nkem Ndem

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Before you join me in psycho-analyzing the issue of a man’s “beauty” being subject to the weight of his pocket, let’s get one thing straight: Money is sexy as hell. Yes, I said so. A while ago, if someone made the same statement and I heard it, I would look at them with disdain, while thinking to myself: “what a shallow somebody” …and naturally, I would roll my eyes… very heavily too.

But, yeah…I see the light now.

Believe it or not, having money is a game changer for anyone: man or woman. But I guess for men, it’s a more dramatic change. No? Have you ever seen the throw back pictures of some Nigerian celebrities who are kind of sex symbols now? Tu face? Flavour? They looked dried up, hungry and excruciatingly unpleasant to the eyes… compared to the way they look now. What is the difference between then and now? Did their facial features change? Did they take some magical pill that made them look hotter than they used to? No. they didn’t. Their “beauty” came with the money they acquired when they “blew”! I mean…except for maybe Bobrisky who went on to bleach and now wears fabulous weaves and wigs, most of these celebrities did not really do anything extra to their looks. They just became handsome and sexy because they gained wealth.

Agreed, there are some who even with the wealth, they still look ugly AF…they know it, we know it… but nobody ever mentions it. In fact, they are used as yardsticks for “handsomeness” and “being dapper”. Why? They have the money!

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Yesterday, a close friend asked: “Nkem, be honest, would you rather an ugly man with an annual income of 500 million Naira or a handsome man who is unemployed or undecided at his career path?” It was a tricky one, so I asked further questions for clarification: “when you say ugly, do you mean repulsive or just not good-looking?” “hmmm…not good-looking” he said. “Hmmnnn…and both are the same age?” I continued, and he says “Yes, both 32”. With the extra questions answered, I did not hesitate. I straightaway said: “I’d go for the Ugly one.”. My friend (clearly shocked since I’m a huge champion of equal love for “struggling” men) yelled: “Liar! Even if he looks like ‘a certain president Nigeria once had’?” and I said: “YES! What do you mean? That dude is super intelligent and sexy! Have you read any of his books?” Of course, that was me trying to be funny, but my “yes” was a certain yes.

Before you judge me any further (because I know you are already doing that), let me walk you through my thought process and how it was easy to pick the ugly rich man. The way I see it, being wealthy or having a huge income is a product of extreme hard work, huge efforts, and sacrifices made in the past by themselves or their families. The man who makes the annual income of 500 million Naira is rich not just because he has money, he is rich because he did something in the past to grow, to maintain money. He has was intelligent, focused, purposeful and tenacious. The handsome man, on the other hand, what did he do to earn his looks? What effort did he put in? Genetics? Proper grooming? Is that it?

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Again, “handsomeness” is a depreciating value while wealth is appreciating value. Looks and unnecessary charm in a man will give butterflies, sweet heartburn and all that goofy nonsense that makes life seem enjoyable…but that handsomeness fades with time and circumstances…and along with it the heady feelings and emotions. That is a certainty.

A man who has successfully earned a considerable amount of money is likely to be more financially smart and plan futuristically. His value usually will appreciate with time, and even if he fails or experiences difficulties at some point, there is the high probability that he has what it takes to rise back up again. Considering these remote implication makes it easy to see pick the ugly man.

Basically, the amount of money a man has kind of determines how valuable and how “handsome” he appears. Even Jay Z, who is generally considered ugly, said in Family Feud, one of the songs on 4.44, his new album: “Ain’t no such thing as an ugly billionaire, I’m cute.” Perhaps he was being petty, but he hit the nail on the head. Do you think Beyonce, the epitome of beauty, would have married him and stuck with him despite the lies and cheating, should he have been the regular boy from across the streets? Do you think she would have thought him handsome enough to combine her genes with and birth children? If you asked her now, she would say to you that he is the most handsome man in the world. Why? His financial worth is handsome, ergo, he is handsome.

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Don’t get me wrong, this in no way means I no longer have an unabashed soft spot for beautiful people, I still do. But at the same time, I also have a deep respect for financial stability and economic vigor. Like I always say, women (feminist or not) are naturally wired to seek a man who is capable of protecting and taking care of them financially…even when they can take care of themselves already. It is innate, they would prefer a person with whom they can have a secure future with, ugly or not. A man stops being ugly to any woman the moment he is able to make something for himself and can offer her an above-average future.

We need to stop being pretentious about things like this and look past the erroneous idea that a woman who picks an ugly man with money is shallow, does not see him for more than his worth and is only managing him for his money.

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Paul Chukwuma joins peaceful march against Udogachi, SASA operatives in Anambra

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The candidate of the Young Progressive Party (YPP) in the November Governorship election in Anambra State, Sir Paul Chukwuma, on Friday joined a peaceful march against the intimidation and abuse meted out to Ndi Anambra by operatives of Udogachi and SASA through misuse of governmental authority.

Udogachi, a security outfit created by the Soludo-led Government and the SASA, an anti-touting agency otherwise known as Ndi Akodo, which is notorious for using pestles on citizens, have come under intense scrutiny owing to the numerous clips of their abuses against the people.

In the past week, operatives of Udogachi have come under serious criticism for manhandling a young girl who is a serving youth corps member in Oba, Idemili South LGA of Anambra State.

During the peaceful march against the brutality of Udogachi and SASA, which was organized by Make Anambra Great Again, the YPP Governorship candidate regretted that the governor of Anambra State, Professor Charles Chukwuma Soludo, would allow agencies of the State established to serve the people to become instruments of operation against the same people.

“Anambra is not in a good place today. It affects all of us. We are determined to fix our state,” Paul Chukwuma said while addressing a large crowd at Eke Awka market.

The peaceful march, which commenced from Aroma Junction in Awka, terminated at the Anambra State Police Headquarters in Amawbia, where the group was received by the Deputy Commissioner of Police in charge of Operations, DCP Ibrahim Ezekiel.

At the Anambra State Police Command’s office, Sir Paul Chukwuma addressed the DCP and listed some of the reasons for the peaceful march, which include the abuse meted out to innocent citizens by Udogachi and SASA.

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He also called on the police to rise up to their responsibilities, while assuring them of support from Ndi Anambra.

“The responsibility placed on the government in terms of protection of lives and properties is well spelt out in the constitution. In Anambra today, we are experiencing what is a negation of the position of the law. We know the agencies of government that are saddled with the responsibility of ensuring law and order in our state. Anambra State is still part of Nigeria as a sub-national entity. We are experiencing something that has never happened in the history of Anambra State…with what is happening today, we are beginning to wonder if the Nigerian Police Force has abdicated their responsibility and duty to Ndi Anambra. Today, we have experienced a litany of what we call an aberration to the protocol of such organization and agency (Udogachi and SASA). A lot of heinous crimes are being perpetrated in Anambra State by the so-called security outfit Udogachi. We don’t have anything against establishing such an outfit. But we are of the opinion that such outfits, when established, must abide by the rule of law,” Chukwuma said.

Reacting, DCP Ibrahim Ezekiel, who stood in for the Commissioner of Police, assured Paul Chukwuma and the group that the issues raised would be addressed by working with all stakeholders.

Speaking on behalf of the group, Nkem Mbonu, the group’s coordinator, said that the group had articulated three clear demands from their engagements with the people of Anambra State.

The demands include: an investigation into cases of missing persons in Anambra State. Secondly, an investigation into the alleged secret cells of Udogachi in Awka and Onitsha. Finally, the assumption of full security of the state by the police, as well as the disbandment of SASA.

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The walk, which covered about seven kilometers, was well received by thousands of Anambra residents, who expressed their disapproval of the modus operandi of Udogachi and SASA operatives.

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Why Every Nigerian Should Learn Combat Skills — CDS

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The Chief of Defence Staff (CDS), General Christopher Musa, has urged all Nigerians to acquire combat skills such as Karate, Taekwondo, and Judo to protect themselves in the face of increasing danger.

Speaking on Channels Television’s Politics Today programme on Thursday, August 21, General Musa likened learning martial arts to other essential survival skills, including driving and swimming.

“That one should be taken as learning driving, learning how to swim.

Whether we have war or not, it is a survival instinct,” he said.

He added that in Europe, swimming and basic security education are compulsory because citizens must understand and practice personal safety.

The defence chief emphasised that the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) should incorporate unarmed combat training into its programme to prepare graduates for real-world threats.

He explained, “That’s what the NYSC is supposed to do, but the NYSC has been watered down to three weeks. Self-defence is very important.

Unarmed combat, swimming, driving these are critical aspects of human survival. We should never take them for granted because they prepare us for the future.”

General Musa further encouraged Nigerians to remain situationally aware of their environment, alerting authorities to any suspicious activities or individuals.

He said, “The world we are in now is dangerous. We have individuals who don’t mean people well. They kill for whatever reason.”

Highlighting evolving threats, General Musa disclosed that terrorists increasingly use gold to finance their operations.

He noted that complex international networks make it difficult to immediately expose or prosecute these financiers. “Gold is the main source.

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They circulate it through various channels, including foreign links, which complicates intervention,” he explained.

General Musa acknowledged that bad roads and challenging terrains hinder rapid military response to attacks.

He said, “Many Nigerians expect immediate intervention from the Armed Forces without understanding the logistical challenges. By the time information reaches us, terrorists have already struck and vanished because they move more quickly in these regions.”

He added that improvised explosive devices (IEDs) in the North-East further slow troop movement.

Regarding the Southeast, General Musa noted that the arrest of pro-Biafran agitator Simon Ekpa in Finland in November 2024 has improved security in the region.

He said, “Troops are actively pursuing Ekpa’s lieutenants in Imo, Enugu, Anambra, Ebonyi, and Abia states. We will continue operations until all threats are neutralised.”

The CDS also praised the synergy among the Nigerian Army, Air Force, and Navy, which led to the arrest of Ansaru terrorist leaders, describing it as a major success in the fight against terrorism.

General Musa concluded by announcing an African Chiefs of Defence Staff conference to foster continental collaboration and enhance regional security efforts.

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Bandits abduct naval officer, family in Kaduna

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Residents of Kachia Local Government Area in Kaduna State are gripped with fear following the abduction of a naval officer and his family by armed bandits in the wee hours of Wednesday, August 20, 2025.

The attack, which occurred around 2am, saw the gunmen storm Unguwan Mission, targeting Seaman Olatunji Enoch, a 40-year-old naval officer attached to the Nigerian Navy Secondary Armament Training (NNSAT) in Kachia.

The attackers reportedly abducted Seaman Enoch alongside his 25-year-old wife, Margaret Olatunji, and their 13-year-old daughter, Hellen Bitrus.

Security analyst Zagazola Makama confirmed the incident, emphasizing that it highlights the escalating insecurity in Kaduna, where bandits have increasingly targeted both civilians and security personnel.

Security agencies have since launched a manhunt for the perpetrators, deploying cordon-and-search operations in nearby bushes and suspected hideouts.

Authorities have assured the public that efforts are underway to ensure the victims are rescued unharmed.

 

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Herdsmen slaughter mother, son, 2 others in fresh Benue attack

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A devastating attack shook Agatu Local Government Area of Benue State on Wednesday as suspected armed herdsmen launched a violent assault on two farming communities, Egwuma and Ogbai.

The attack, which occurred around midday, claimed the lives of four farmers, including a woman and her young son, leaving the community in shock and mourning.

Additionally, two residents remain missing, with search efforts ongoing to locate them.

Eyewitnesses recounted the horrifying events, describing how the attackers stormed the farmlands in large numbers, firing indiscriminately at farmers going about their daily work.

“They came in large numbers and started shooting at innocent people in their farms,” said a resident identified as Oglewu.

Another local source revealed that families have fled to nearby villages in search of safety, leaving both communities tense and deserted.

“As I speak, two farmers are still missing, and youths are searching for their bodies for burial,” the source added.

The Chairman of Agatu LGA, Melvin James, condemned the attack, calling it “senseless and barbaric.”

He expressed disbelief at the unprovoked nature of the killings, saying: “How could people attack and kill a mother and her son who were working on their farm? This is an unprovoked attack on our people.”

James further explained that the incident occurred while security operatives were patrolling other parts of the council, highlighting the challenges posed by poor road infrastructure that often delays emergency responses.

Despite the efforts of security operatives to maintain peace in the area, James acknowledged that logistical challenges, such as bad roads, remain a significant obstacle.

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“The security operatives in Agatu have been doing their best, but the problem in my council is the bad roads”, he noted.

The attack has reignited fears among residents of Agatu, a region that has faced repeated waves of violence linked to herdsmen-farmer clashes.

It underscores the urgent need for strengthened security measures and improved infrastructure to protect vulnerable communities in Benue State.

 

 

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Security forces dislodge dreaded IPOB commanders’ from hideouts

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Troops raid IPOB hideout, capture fighter, fire arms

Combined security operatives have successfully dismantled the hideouts of “notorious commanders” of the outlawed Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) and its militant wing, the Eastern Security Network (ESN), in Imo State.

The operation, carried out on Monday in Ubaa, Umuaka—a volatile community in Njaba Local Government Area—was described as a significant victory by security forces.

According to Henry Okoye, Deputy Superintendent of Police and spokesman for the Imo State Police Command, the operation was a collaborative effort involving police officers and other unnamed security agencies.

Acting on a tip-off and confessional statements from two detained suspects, Uchenna Opara and Ozioma Ihedoro, security operatives moved in on the targeted location.

Upon arrival, the armed militants opened fire but were overwhelmed by the superior firepower of the operatives, forcing them to flee into nearby bushes, many sustaining gunshot wounds in the process.

The raid yielded a substantial cache of weapons and equipment, including two Biafra flags, one Point of Sale (POS) machine, an AK-47 rifle with three magazines, 40 rounds of live AK-47 ammunition, 60 rounds of live General Purpose Machine Gun (GPMG) ammunition, two pump-action guns, and 582 live cartridges.

Investigations are ongoing to track down the fleeing suspects, according to the police.

The Commissioner of Police in Imo State, Aboki Danjuma, has assured residents of their safety and urged them to remain vigilant.

He emphasized the importance of promptly reporting suspicious individuals, particularly those with gunshot injuries, to the authorities.

Danjuma also encouraged the use of designated emergency phone lines for quick responses to security concerns.

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IPOB, which advocates for the secession of South-east and parts of South-south Nigeria, has been linked to several violent attacks in the region.

However, the group has consistently denied involvement in such incidents, maintaining that it is committed to peaceful advocacy.

 

 

 

 

 

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