Just in: I begged a friend for N200k, he offered me s€x

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A recent graduate of Benue State University has opened up about her harrowing experiences since completing her National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) in January 2025.

According to Diaspora Digital Media (DDM), the young woman shared her ordeal in a moving interview on the Lucky Udu Experience, shedding light on the economic and moral challenges faced by many young Nigerians transitioning from NYSC into uncertain futures.

She recounted how relocating to Abuja in search of better opportunities has exposed her to financial struggles and disturbing moral dilemmas.

“Life favors some, while others have to struggle.

“I feel like my own time will come,” she said.

She voiced her frustration about the unclear means through which some of her peers sustain themselves.

“I don’t know what some of my friends do to earn a living.”

“The money people earn in Nigeria isn’t enough.”

“People go into illegal things to make money,” she said, her voice cracking with emotion.

During her NYSC year, she made ends meet by selling headbands with her monthly allowance.

But since completing the program, things have worsened.

Though faced with frequent propositions for transactional sex, she has resisted, choosing to stay true to her values.

“If I wanted to sleep around for money, I would make it, but I don’t want to. It’s my own decision to live a good life,” she said firmly.

One of the most painful episodes she recounted involved a male friend she turned to for help.

“When I was passing through a lot, I had a lot of guys ask me out in my DM,” she recalled.

“I begged a friend of mine to help me with 200,000 naira to start a business. He said if I spent 10 days with him in a hotel, he would give me 1 million.”

Unable to accept such a degrading condition, she said, “I had to block him.”

She pleaded for respect and dignity for women, especially those seeking honest assistance.

“If I am seeking help, I don’t want people to ask me to sleep with them before they give me the money.”

She also revealed how family responsibilities weigh heavily on her shoulders.

“I’m the one taking care of myself and my family. I’m literally the head of my nuclear family.”

“My mom and younger ones call me for money almost all the time,” she continued.

“Even when I was going through a rough time, they still reached out. I told them I was broke, and they would understand.”

She noted that her university education was not funded by her immediate family, adding, “It’s been God all the way.”

Despite not securing a job after service, she continues to hustle and hold on to hope.

“Since I couldn’t get a good job, I’m just trying to see if I can save up money and get a shop to start up something else too.”

She spoke about the toll her hustle has taken on her health.

“Most times when I come back from walking to sell my headbands, I will be very sick and would have to buy drugs.”

Her story has sparked emotional reactions online, as many Nigerians, particularly young women, see their own experiences reflected in her struggle.

She remains a symbol of silent resistance in a society where many are pressured to compromise their values to survive.

The full interview is available on the Lucky Udu Experience YouTube channel, with her emotional segment starting from 5:56 to 6:13.

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