Analysis
Resilient: The Explosive Story of an African Woman and Tradition
By Paul Ejime

It takes enormous courage, strong will and conviction to share the inner secrets of a personal life, with all the misfortunes, the bad and the ugly, including childhood abuse, a turbulent marriage, cultural taboos, and racial discrimination at work, even when all ends in exceptional successes.
That is exactly what Resilient is about. A 425-page memoir of Christina Kanayo Achebe-Mordi, a Registered Nurse (RN), Legal Nurse Consultant (LNC) with a Doctorate in Professional Studies (DPS), focusing on Bioethics and almost three decades’ professional experience in the US.
Christina took the ‘Ada’ moniker in the memoir, a child from a poor background in a community with cultural, religious and traditional practices among the Igbo of Eastern Nigeria and many other African societies.
Rising from the scars and traumas of child abuse, challenged adulthood, an abusive marriage, involving intermittent separations/estrangement, and being forced to perform traditional rites of reconciliation after the husband absconded, Ada endured a painful motherhood and widowhood. Still, she transformed herself into an advocate and champion of voiceless children and women victims of what she went through.
Resilient is a collection from Ada’s diligently kept diary, partly written in Pittman’s shorthand, translated into four engaging chapters of captivating stories. It sheds light on some undiluted truths rarely spoken aloud, such as incest and other atrocities that linger in the shadows of Igbo/Africa cultures as secrets but shameful realities of many families.
Chapter one begins with the story of Ada’s mother, Mma’s unplanned pregnancy, and how Umeadi, her secret lover responsible for the pregnancy, and who later became her husband and Ada’s father, deserted Mma in Abba village in the present-day Anambra State, South-Eastern Nigeria.
Mma herself, the first daughter among five siblings (three girls and two boys), had experienced hard labour in her village. It was while running errands that she met Umeadi, who escaped to Lagos due to the pregnancy.
Even after giving birth to a baby boy, Uche, Mma still endured the wrath of the powerful Umuada, the women’s group of the community, who must administer the mandatory rites of punishment to any woman who had a child outside wedlock.
“What were you thinking? That nobody will catch you when you are frolicking in sin? Whoever did this (pregnancy) to you? Well, it is not his fault because you… did not close your legs,” the women leader chastised. Absorbing the ridicule in silence, Mma’s tears flowed and dropped on her innocent baby.
The memoir uses Mma’s case to illustrate the plight of millions of Nigerian/African girls saddled with unplanned pregnancies, many resulting in deaths and high maternal mortality rates.
After many months, Umeadi’s kinsmen sent emissaries to him in Lagos about Mma’s status and counselled marriage between them. Umeadi owned up to being the father of Mma’s pregnancy but was unprepared for child’s care.
It took about five years after Ada’s elder brother was born before Umeadi’s family elders went to Lagos to force him home and marry Mma.
When Mma eventually joined Umeadi in Lagos, he had a live-in lover. All the same, he and Mma had a white wedding at St. Dominic’s Catholic Church, Yaba, Lagos, in 1961.
Even so, the arrival of Ada (the first female child in Igbo), and the second child in Umeadi’s family was not what Mma expected. In Igbo land and many African cultures, a woman’s life revolved around the patriarchal man’s world. Umeadi had wanted another male child and openly told Mma: “She (Ada) is a girl and, therefore, another man’s property… of no significance in my home.”
At his dilapidated ghetto home in Abule Ijesha, Lagos, Umeadi thrived as a squatter landlord. He also became notorious for disappearing from home to escape his parental responsibilities.
Chapters two and three capture Mma’s pains, humiliation and difficulties in raising her children in the slum without emotional or financial support from Umeadi. To console herself, she usually sang native songs and told her children teachable life stories, which resonated with little Ada, who enjoyed her mother’s songs more than her lengthy prayers.
In an era of ground latrines and open defecation, Ada fell ill frequently and had ugly encounters with the hooded night-soil men, the “agbepos” in her community that lacked water-system toilets, and where shack dwellers tapped electrical energy to light up their homes and petty business centres.
Ada remembers her father’s gambling, drunkenness and her being rescued from drowning in the shanty flood, an incident that earned her the wrath of her mother, but ignited her Christian faith and closeness to God, through constant prayers.
Umeadi and Mma were blessed with four children: Uche, Ada, Echi, and Friday (three sons and a girl) before the Nigerian Civil War of 1967-70 broke out, when the Igbo of southeastern Nigeria unsuccessfully attempted to secede as independent Republic of Biafra.
Umeadi was drafted into the civil war, while Mma took their four children to Abba village, in eastern Nigeria, like most Igbo people did then. Umeadi had no home in the village, so Mma was given a space in her in-laws’ home with strict instructions to fend for her children.
In the village, Ada could not escape the traditional Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) with unsterilized instruments. The practice is known to have led to excessive bleeding and even death of some female victims.
At six years old and recovering from the painful circumcision, Ada was bartered off as a child labourer to a wealthy farmer who sent food items to Mma in exchange for Ada’s chores as a maid servant, a fancy word for a “slave girl.”
Ada received a message from her mother a few months later that her younger brother, Friday, had died, apparently from “kwashiorkor,” a disease linked to malnutrition.
Part of Ada’s experience during the war was moving with the farmer to a new farmhouse, where residents dodged bullets and witnessed the devastation of bombs, including “ogbunigwe,” the Biafran-made mass killer.
After the 30-month civil war, Ada returned to Mma, and along with her two other siblings, all joined Umeadi in Lagos. The couple had two additional children, all girls and albinos. Umeadi rejected them and insinuated infidelity. His allegation of adultery was untrue, but Mma was helpless. Ada saw her father verbally and physically abuse her mother, who only sang mournful songs in tears.
Mma’s story is one of strength in suffering, rejection, shame and abandonment in an abusive marriage. While Ada sympathised with her mother, she was disappointed that Mma failed to rescue her daughter from being abused by her father.
Umeadi eventually died in a car crash. Curiously, out of six passengers crammed into a vehicle on that fateful journey, he was the only fatality. Before then, Mma had died in 1978 from prolonged ill-health arising from domestic violence. While Umeadi’s body was taken to Abba for burial, Mma was buried at the Atan Cemetery, Lagos, against Abba culture of “ozu nwada Abba adiato namba.”
With the demise of her mother, Ada took on the responsibility of caring for her albino sisters, who were barely a year old, including soliciting breast milk from a generous woman to feed her younger sister, Tonia.
Ada’s heart-wrenching story, presented in a no-holds-barred style, will resonate with victims and hopefully prick the conscience of society into taking remedial action.
By divine delay, Ada only started menstruation at 15, which prevented a possible ‘in-breeding’ of an offspring from incestuous attacks. She was able to complete elementary education, but could not proceed to secondary school due to a lack of funds.
However, as a private student, Ada did well in the West African Examination Council’s tests and also trained as a Secretary at a Commercial Institute, which enabled her to secure her first job as a Confidential Secretary with a company in Lagos.
Umeadi remarried, and after Mma’s death Ada rented an apartment and moved out of her father’s house with her two sisters. One of them died mysteriously years later in Lagos.
Ada established herself in the media and entertainment industries, working as an award-winning presenter at Radio Nigeria. She also won laurels as an actress, which brought her in contact with Nigeria’s Nobel laureate, Wole Soyinka, after the Ajo Arts Festival in August 1986.
Resilient also featured Ada’s love affairs, including vacations to London and the US.
Back from the American vacation in 1988, she returned to her Radio Nigeria job and landed a more lucrative bank job, which she declined. Ada finally relocated to the US in 1990 on the invitation of the man whom she eventually married. They had their white wedding in 1991.
Despite discovering her husband’s previous arranged marriage and other secrets, and enduring domestic violence, arrest and detention for trumped-up charges by him, Ada still raised their two children to higher university degree level, and is a grandmother today.
She supported her husband in his decision to relocate to Nigeria, where he passed on in 2023, leaving her a widow. *Resilient* is available on the Amazon platform.
An award-winning Journalist, Paul Ejime is a Media/Communications Specialist and Global Affairs Analyst.
Analysis
It is time to let Nyesom Wike go
By Onwuasoanya FCC Jones, PhD.
I was trying to write something more extensive about how the current crisis ravaging our country’s supposed main opposition Party started, but as I wrote, I realised that it was becoming too lengthy, hence, I decided to take out an important part of that long essay and publish it as a separate post, to avoid the message getting lost in the voluminous write-up, that I might still conclude and publish.
Politics, especially, democratic politicking cannot be played without factoring in public opinion. The public opinion might be informed by propaganda or outright fake news, but if it is the popular opinion, then, a responsible government must take it seriously and work to correct the wrong opinion or the actual reality.
Even in Communist States like North-Korea, Cuba and China and authoritarian democracies like Russia, Belarus and elsewhere, people’s opinions are not discarded as worthless, but they are closely monitored, and while these governments invest huge resources into State propaganda, they do not also fail to take important actions to defuse tension when public opinion is getting too negative concerning a particular action.
Nyesom Wike’s endorsement of Mr. President and his subsequent contributions towards the successful election of the President in 2023, cannot be denied, and the President has shown enough gratitude by appointing him as the Minister of the Federal Capital Territory, an appointment that should have been originally reserved for top members of the ruling Party.
While it must be acknowledged that the FCT Minister is doing some fantastic jobs in the FCT, it is also obvious that he is being distracted by his involvement in the tussle for the control of his own Party. His actions have also brought immerse reputational damage on the APC administration at the federal level, as he regularly puts himself forward as an untouchable appointee of the President, even as some of his actions could not have been possible without his access to some presidential protections.
The FCT Minister wouldn’t have had the resources and security to challenge sitting governors of his own Party to the extent of attempting to evict them from the Party’s secretariat, if he didn’t have access to enormous federal government accessories. His insistence on remaining in the PDP, while working openly for the APC, is outright political treachery, which the President must not continue to condone. If the Minister loves our Party so much and detests his own Party that much, then, he should quit the PDP officially and join the APC.
Mr. Wike is ruining our Party’s reputation before Nigerians and the international community, and the sooner the President relieves him of his job as FCT Minister, to enable him focus more resources and attention to “rebuilding” his Party and pocketing its structure, the better for us as a Party and as a nation.
Onwuasoanya FCC Jones, PhD is a former State Publicity Secretary of the All Progressives Congress.
It was difficult to miss the trending videos, photos and reports of Nigeria’s Federal Capital Territory (FCT) Minister Nyesom Wike and Naval Officer Lieutenant A. M. Yerima staring each other down at a property site in Abuja, the Nigerian capital, recently.
The full picture may never be known, but there are many versions of the narratives, which may or may not be from Wike’s office or the military establishment. There are numerous write-ups and analyses on whether Wike or the officer was right or wrong.
Perhaps, one day, an opportunity will present itself for various sides to tell their own versions of the event. In this digital age, there are many possibilities to colour stories, or even mislead the public.
But what happened between Wike and the naval officer was yet another portrayal of a power show (thanks to Fela Kuti, the Afro-beat King), and a failure of law and order in the society. It started a long time ago, and it is getting worse.
Individuals, institutions and governments use and misuse their authorities, their wealth, and their instruments of power including positions, guns, uniforms, security personnel… – to force their way, and achieve their objectives. Whether the objectives are right or wrong, it does not matter.
The use of established, official adjudication process is disregarded, and not even explored. Might is right.
There are real-life examples of how it happens every day. At levels small and big.
A soldier stands by the side of the highway and waves down every truck (or trailer, as we call it) that passes by. He needs a lift, after all, he is in uniform, purportedly serving the nation. Wrong! He is on a mission for illegal extortion. He is one of the many service personnel in uniform who accompany trucks across the country on highways. It is not official business. But they profit from the fact that there are many roadblocks manned by police, customs, immigration agents, and other unformed entities.
Some of these entities extort “monies” from truck drivers for “assisting” them through the roadblocks. A soldier sitting next to the truck driver means that the truck gets a through pass without paying an illegal toll. Instead, the soldier is “settled” by the truck driver for the “service”. It is cheaper and faster for the truck driver.
Some individuals with strong connections in the military can obtain the services of soldiers to help them secure their properties against intruders. Whoever can mobilise soldiers to secure the property has a higher claim, irrespective of whether the property is illegally acquired.
A tenant who fails in his financial obligations but can pay his way through the police or the court can scare his landlord away.
Policemen accompany criminals and “big men”, who break the law, and provide cover or security to keep others at a distance.
The rogue behaviour of these military or unformed persons are not necessarily backed or approved by their superiors or their organisations.
Yet, there are too many examples of the use/misuse of uniformed security officials for illegal purposes. It is not limited to the uniformed services. Politicians also use their positions to bend rules and circumvent normal processes and procedures.
Some senior government officials assume all manner of powers. A well-connected politician can take over public roads, public facilities and access areas, and “nothing will happen”. Having a political title is power.
Such power is used to determine who votes and how. Hence, snatching of ballot boxes and disenfranchising voters in so many ways has become the norm.
A wealthy person can “buy” security officials, or pay for the rights of ordinary persons to be taken away. An innocent citizen can be arrested for any reason, jailed or detained illegally for a long time.
If and when the citizen musters the means to go to court against the wealthy or money bag, the case could go on for years until the highest bidder prevails.
It is not a new trend, but it is wrong, and it must stop. It may not be easy to stop, but it can be minimised. Unfortunately, the trend is rather on the increase.
In full public glare, Wike and the naval officer demonstrated the use of “power” to determine who/what is right.
Sadly, it degenerated into another “two-fighting” power play – the one representing government power and the other, a decoy for his Oga, representing the power of the military uniform. A regular citizen could not have stood against either of them. S/he would be destroyed and “nothing will happen”.
By shouting at each other in public, Wike and the naval officer represent the unqualified use of authority that has effectively replaced the application of due process for adjudication of contending claims.
The FCT authorities and the former Chief of Naval Staff, Vice Admiral Awwal Zubairu Gambo, who is said to be the owner of the property in question, could have used other legal and dignified mechanisms of adjudication to settle the matter, without unnecessary drama. There was no need for the “show of power.”
This legitimate process of adjudication is no longer attractive to those who have the power to determine the outcomes of their own matters. They use their positions, wealth, uniforms, and paraphernalia of office to force their way through. Those lacking such powers are denied justice.
Both Wike and the naval chief will ultimately sort out their differences. The bravado in public only reinforces the “powerlessness” of the ordinary citizen.
Citizen Nigerian has no standing against Wike and his arsenal, or the naval officer and his boss. Under these circumstances, it is immaterial whether Citizen Nigerian has genuine documents or legal claims; S/he is the loser in the game between and among the powerful in society.
Bunmi Makinwa is an Analyst and CEO, AUMIQUEI Communication for Leadership.
An unlikely coincidence of elections in over a period of 45 days period from the middle of September to the end of October 2025 has cast a new light on the state of democratic governance in Africa and now threatens to unscramble the ritual hollowness that has become the fate of elections on the continent under the indifferent watch of the African Union and other regional institutions in Africa. How the continent’s leaders and institutions handle the aftermath could have serious implications for the stability of the continent.
On 16 September 2025, Malawi went to the polls to elect their president. The last time the country did that in 2019, it produced results that were so transparently rigged that five judges of the Constitutional Court of Malawi wearing bullet-proof vests were needed to set aside the result declared by the electoral commission. That was only the second time in Africa’s history that a court would nullify the declared outcome in a presidential election.
The annulled result had favoured then incumbent and fifth president of the Republic, Peter Mutharika (a long-serving law professor and brother of Malawi’s third president, Bingu wa Mutharika), in a contest against Lazarus Chakwera, a theologian and pastor with the Assemblies of God Church in Malawi. In the re-run that followed the judicial nullification in 2020, Chakwera prevailed, and the people ousted Peter Mutharika from the presidency.
The contest in September 2025 pitted 85-year-old Peter Mutharika in a sequel against his nemesis, Lazarus Chakwera. In the preceding five years, President Chakwera had managed to implausibly squander the considerable civic goodwill that powered him into office. Despite being 15 years younger than President Mutharika, President Chakwera lost resoundingly to his older opponent who secured 56.8% of the vote.
Malawi may have vindicated the trust of both the voters and of the candidates in a test of the will of the people but it is an outlier in a continent that has grown used to seeing elections as charades. This reluctance for credible ballots was evident when the central African country of Cameroon went to the polls nearly one month later on 12 October 2025, to elect their president. The incumbent, Paul Biya, was a 92 year-old whose sojourn in Cameroon’s government dates back to his appointment as Chief of Staff in the cabinet of the Minister of Education in 1964. In 1975, President Ahmadou Ahidjo made him Prime Minister. On 6 November 1982, two days after the resignation of President Ahidjo on grounds of ill-health, Biya ascended to the presidency and has ruled the country for 43 years since.
At 92, Paul Biya is the oldest serving president in the world, only outlasted in office by Teodoro Obiang, president of the neighbouring Equatorial Guinea, who has been in office since he toppled his uncle, Macias Nguema, in August 1979 before executing him. In the election this year, his main opponent was Issa Tchiroma, a 35-year veteran in the cabinet of President Biya, who stepped down from the ruling Cameroon Peoples’ Democratic Movement (CPDM) and from the Cabinet in order to run against his former boss.
It took the Constitutional Council 15 days to tabulate the figures in an election which had 8.1 million registered voters with an average turnout of about 68.5%. When it eventually declared that outcome on 27 October, the Constitutional Council announced Biya as winner with 53.66% of the votes in disputed results and in an election in which he was unable to campaign because of infirmity. Independent analysts who have examined the official numbers insist he “couldn’t have won.”
With the result, Biya, who was born one month after Adolf Hitler assumed office as German Chancellor and in the month preceding the inauguration of Franklin Delano Roosevelt as the president of the United States of America – entered upon his seventh presidential term in a country in which the median age belongs to children who were born in 2006. By the time of the next election, he will be nearly one century old. In the wake of the announcement, United Nations Secretary-General, António Guterres, pointedly declined to extend congratulations to President Biya, instead focusing his attention on the need for a “thorough and impartial investigation” of the “post-electoral violence and…. reports of excessive use of force.”
Paul Biya can at least claim that he had a genuine contest against a genuine opponent. In Côte d’Ivoire, West Africa, the contest two weeks later on 25 October 2025 pitted incumbent president, Alassane Ouattara, whose ambitions drove the country to the brink of fragmentation at the beginning of the millennium – against no one.
When the result
was announced, President Ouattara, a child of the Second World War, having been born on New Year’s Day in 1942, contrived at 83 years to award himself nearly 90% of the vote and a fourth term in office in an election from which he barred every credible competition. That was indeed a generous four percentage points lower than the 94% of the votes that he awarded himself in 2020. In power since 2010, Ouattara was supposed to be term-limited after two terms of ten years in office. At 83, he expects to rule until at least he is 88, which would still be five years younger than President Biya’s current age.
The election in Tanzania four days after Côte d’Ivoire’s took place in a graveyard. The incumbent and candidate of the ruling Chama Cha Mapinduzi (Party of the Revolution) was Samia Suluhu Hassan, who inherited the office when her principal, John Pombe Magufuli, died in March 2021.
Ahead of the contest, however, it became evident that Samia would not tolerate a contest. Under her leadership, the government unleashed what Amnesty International described as a “wave of terror” designed to make her candidacy unopposed and the ruling party unchecked in its march to a pre-determined seventh decade in power. On the day of the contest on 29 October, protests unexpectedly erupted in key cities, such as Dar-Es-Salaam, Arusha, Mbeya, and Mwanza. Under cover of a media blackout complemented by an internet shutdown imposed on the day of the ballot, Samia’s government orchestrated a campaign of targeted mass murder in population centres suspected to be opposition strongholds.
President Samia’s electoral commission declared her winner with 87% voter turnout and nearly 98% of the vote. As Tanzanians in different parts of the country woke up to find bodies on their courtyards with fatal injuries from unknown persons and morgues overflowing with fresh cadavers reportedly being disappeared under instructions of the government, President Samia turned up at a military base in new capital city, Dodoma, where on the fourth night following the vote, she was stealthily inaugurated for a new term.
Initial estimates putting the casualty count in the hundreds were quickly eclipsed by more updated tallies of over 3,000 killed in under 72 hours. Fresh reporting by the New Humanitarian put the number over 5,000 and suggests that the casualty count may indeed be over 10,000. Around the country, initial trepidation gave way to alarm at the scale of the massacre. That alarm has now been ousted by outrage.
Meanwhile, for the first time in their histories, official election observer missions deployed by the African Union (AU) and the Southern African Development Community (SADC) both concluded separately that the election in Tanzania “did not comply with AU principles.” This caught many people unprepared. Now both institutions are scrambling to figure out what to do. There is an emerging consensus that President Samia is illegitimate. The leaders of both institutions must articulate consequences and citizens have a right to expect them to do so clearly.
The consensus is also growing around the urgent need for an independent, international investigation and accountability. Meanwhile, Tanzania’s young people prepare for nationwide protests on 9 December 2025. The symbolism is significant: it is World Anti-Corruption Day; it is the anniversary of the adoption of the Genocide Convention; and it is Tanzania’s Independence Day.
A lawyer and a teacher, Odinkalu can be reached at chidi.odinkalu@tufts.edu.
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